There is one absolute given in life: change.
You are always changing and evolving.
The inner stirrings of change are so subtle that months and years can pass before you realise you’re being nudged in a new direction.
It may be that you dislike your job, but you put up with it because it pays well and, at the very least, it’s stable.
Or perhaps after years of perceiving and meeting everyone else’s needs and desires, you draw a complete blank when it comes to your own.
Maybe you no longer feel good about yourself when you’re with certain friends.
Or those activities you used to love doing no longer interest you.
If you were heart-stoppingly honest, you'd admit you simply don’t feel the way you used to. There’s no longer a snug fit between who you are now and the situation you’re in. Either you’ve changed, or the situation has changed. And that’s OK.
Of course it can feel much safer to stay where you are and hope things will work themselves out.
But digging your head in the sand and ignoring your real feelings about situations that aren’t working is, in effect, asking for life to happen to you. It’s a powerless stance, akin to taking a back seat in your own life.
Being in your own power is about sitting in the driver’s seat of your life.
In situations that have stagnated well past their use-by date, it’s likely that a part of you has already jumped ship… or given up, both of which can feel like a kind of deadness inside. There can be a tangible sense of having missed the boat and you may fear it’s too late.
It’s never too late to change.
Nothing in the natural world stays stagnant. There’s a constant cycle of birth, growth, peak, decline, death and rebirth. And developmentally, it’s the same with us. We go through cycles in our lives where new aspects of us are born, develop, peak, decline and die. Over and over again.
If you find yourself going through the motions day after day, somewhere deep down you’ll know if this situation isn’t serving or nourishing you. You may feel uneasy whenever you think about it.
It’s a sign the great wheel of life is turning … something is ending. And there’s something in you aching for new life, for the vibrant you that went into hiding the moment you outgrew the old situation.
You just didn’t notice. Until now.
There’s something incredibly empowering about reading your own signals of change and making fresh choices from that place.
If this is where you’re at, you may feel some discomfort reading these words. There’s no question change can be painful and scary. It can trigger your deepest fears.
Yet it’s far more painful to allow yourself to wilt on the inside than it is to face the truth of your situation.
The potential and opportunities available in the next part of your life lie ahead of you, in the “yet to happen” space.
To open up to what could be, you’ll need to loosen your grip on keeping things the same. You have to be willing to let go and allow change to alchemise your life.
The truth is things are not the same if you no longer feel nourished by or connected to them.
Change starts within.
You will notice it's presence when you slow down and pay close attention to how you feel.
When you ask yourself what's true for you.
When you give yourself permission to grieve the loss of what's ending in your life.
Are you noticing the stirrings of change? I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.