Is your good girl in charge?

Is your good girl in charge?

Is the good girl in you running your life? Have you spent years being well-behaved, polished and compliant and now you're wondering - what for? What's the point of all this pretending?

I'd like to share with you a story. I once knew a young woman who tried hard to please everyone and do the right thing. She wanted to fit in and belong and was motivated by a deep need to be liked and to avoid conflict at all costs. She was exceptionally good at reading people, giving them what they needed and telling them what they wanted to hear. 

Dealing with fear in the world

Dealing with fear in the world

This year has had its fair share of traumatic events globally and there's a lot of uneasiness in the air. Spend a few minutes on social media or watching the news, you may come away with a sense of heaviness and fear. All of us are feeling it, because on an energetic level, we're all connected and because we care.

So how do we stay connected to ourselves and our lives when our environment is filled with fear, instability and uncertainty? 

The courage to make a big change

The courage to make a big change

I overheard a snippet of a conversation this morning between two women in their 60s. One of them, speaking of a big change she wants to make after 20 years in the same role, said she’s worried she will let other people down if she goes ahead. 

Something about this woman contemplating a big change in her 60s inspired me to hit the keyboard. 

How often do we feel compelled to keep things the same, so we don’t rock the boat for others?  

Don't let fear rule: how to stay true to your path

Don't let fear rule: how to stay true to your path

Over the past month I've been hit with two consecutive flus which fogged up my mind, cut off my inspiration and forced me to rest and recover. And whilst I was sick some pretty strong fears and doubts crept in - you know the ones that cause you to question your choices, your path, the whole way you've set up your life?

That's why I'm writing another post on fear, because it's so sneaky and pervasive in trying to stop you from showing up in your life that this topic is well worth another visit.

Your intuitive body

Your intuitive body

Over the years as I've studied and developed my own intuition, I've come to deeply respect the insanely intelligent and subtle wisdom of the body. Intuition is a special kind of listening, where you learn to trust and decipher the inner cues of your body and use that knowledge to take action in your life. 

Your body senses and collects subtle information from your relationships and inner and outer environment constantly, without any conscious effort on your part. When you’re distracted, and entranced by the outside world, when your face and fingers are glued to your devices and your head is spinning up in the same old story about your limitations, your body is listening for what in your life will bring you into closer alignment with who you are and what you need.

The challenge of showing up

The challenge of showing up

Has your soul been urging you to show up more than you've ever done before, but you're struggling to figure out how to do that? Would you secretly like to show your true self to the world, but you're terrified of what might happen if you do?

Over the past couple of weeks I've been called to show up more authentically on my blog, and so in an effort to meet my soul halfway, I wrote some posts that were deeply personal and real. But do you think I could bring myself to publish them? You're right, they're still in my draft folder calling my bluff. 

How important is your character?

How important is your character?

The other night I watched The Man Who Shot Liberty Valance - a 1962 classic Western about character, integrity, courage, sacrifice and community. Seeing the choices the men made in the movie got me thinking about the place of character in our modern world. 

The way I see it, every teaching, lesson, difficulty … every challenge you face throughout your life builds your character. Every choice you make shapes the kind of person you become, and it's cumulative. Your character is you - it's your legacy, your imprint, it's the impact you leave on others. In short, your character matters. 

A little story about a life redirection

A little story about a life redirection

Have you ever had a friend, colleague, or even stranger show up in your life just when you were ripe for a redirection (even if you didn't recognise your need for change at the time)? Or have you read a paragraph in a book or heard a line in a movie that brought a knowing so palpable it caused you to make a big change?

I experienced a moment like this a decade ago, when a new friend took a strong interest in my career direction. He was one of those special people who believed in me long before I knew how to believe in myself. He could see I was stagnating in my current job and urged me to explore other career options or paths of study.

Why a life transition is a potent window for transformation

Why a life transition is a potent window for transformation

I’ve long been fascinated with life transitions, how they deconstruct and reconstruct us at key points in our lives. Our 30s, 40s and 50s are years of multiple stops and starts, as we continue evolving, and as the relationships and circumstances of our lives shift and change, sometimes without warning.

A transition is the period of internal adjustment and reckoning you go through after a big change (even a positive one). Whether you've found out your pregnant, or you've lost your job, are moving away, or facing loss, transitions can be times of confusion and chaos, where everything, from your identity and past choices, to your beliefs, hopes and dreams, can come up for questioning and review.